Setting Healthy Boundaries for Your Mental Health

The major revelation coming out of two years of a pandemic and lockdowns is people’s mental health has been adversely impacted. Today on this episode we talk about having a balanced approach to your mental health. 
When Andrea Lukac entered the working world after studying economics, she noticed very quickly how unhappy she and other people around her were in their day-to-day lives. This awareness led to her having the courage to follow her passion for inspiring people to live life to the fullest.

Utilizing her knowledge of human behavior, especially what has been triggered by past traumas, Andrea is able to assist people in overcoming overwhelm, fear, shame, and judgment by communicating their needs and wants powerfully.

Transcript

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 0:58

well welcome to this show how are you doing today

[andrea_lukac]: 1:02

yes thank you very much for inviting me i'm beautifully fine today

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 1:07

crabbe line ah oh so i

[andrea_lukac]: 1:12

i'm

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ask god to

[andrea_lukac]: 1:15

yes i'm glad being with you today

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 1:17

it's a pleasure so i give you a opening question and kind of up a little bit what's rest an right received

[andrea_lukac]: 1:25

so

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yeah

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be your own best observer

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okay and i'm shared that with you

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and i love it and i want to share it with others as

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yeah

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well because when we know ourselves we are in our power and

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oh

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we can then go for our goals much easier

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okay

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oh

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so i detect a little bit of a european accent there so where are you from originally

[andrea_lukac]: 1:59

so i'm from austria

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okay one of my favorite movies is from austria the sound of music

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okay

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so tell us something about yourself that most people listen did not know

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so i'm a psychological counselor on

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oh

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the way i became an anlptrainer and

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oh

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hypnosis

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oh

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coach i assist

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yeah

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people in coming into their power

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oh

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owning their self and their lives back again

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 2:36

so what does that mean because those are kind of terms we don't use her

[andrea_lukac]: 2:39

yeah

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unpack that for us what does that mean oh

[andrea_lukac]: 2:43

uh so

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yeah

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for me it means that we look within the

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yeah

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inside have a look on our wants desires needs

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oh

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to communicate them clearly

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oh

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out and to respect

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oh

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the needs and wants of others

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 3:05

oh

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as well

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so as you say that how

[andrea_lukac]: 3:10

oh

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is it important for us to know ourselves if you're trying to figure out how to like other people why is it important to me understand

[andrea_lukac]: 3:17

hm

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how to operate first

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um

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yeah

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so if we put ourselves

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oh

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first we take care of ourselves

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yeah

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and we are more in a position to be here for others

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 3:32

okay that makes sense

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oh

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so as we're doing

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oh

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how do we then set healthy bounders because we're trying to balance

[andrea_lukac]: 3:39

who

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or argyissue our emotions with those of people around us

[andrea_lukac]: 3:43

oh

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how do we do that in a healthy way

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m so we communicate

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yeah

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our needs desires and wants clearly

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yeah

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so the other person can understand

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my

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it and we value the other son and

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 4:00

oh

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we don't rush into a communication but stop and

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yeah

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have a look on where we want to go

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okay but as we do

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oh

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i'm kind of curious you

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yeah

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know we don't interact often what people now communication the mast most people do because we don't understand no selves as we try to communicate it was that we are worried about other people think about is kind of what is the heart of the issues with us who did he communicate other people

[andrea_lukac]: 4:31

yes it's

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oh

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often it's oftentimes helpful

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oh

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to repeat if we got the other person right because often

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yeah

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times our mind feels the blanks on we think we know that although

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yeah

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we are interpreting something which was not

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ye

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even said

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and then for me sometimes the communication might be this issue was i be trauma to the toraceship so someone sell some and let me trigger me my price trauma right away kicks and so how do you m now is our past trauma ends were being with people in communication

[andrea_lukac]: 5:09

yeah so

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 5:11

oh

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today we have more of experience

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oh

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and knowledge than we had in the past

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my

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we can learn

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yeah

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from it on we can communicate

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oh

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it clearly repeat it

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oh

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either we have understood it right and

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ah

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not assuming something or interpreting

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i

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because of a past experience but allowing this

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 5:39

yeah

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situation to

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is

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unfold

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 5:43

that's good you mentioned so question i saw the website that we tend to communicate with ourselves we tell ourselves those stories about ourselves how do we battle telling ourselves a little things about ourselves

[andrea_lukac]: 6:01

yes so when we don't feel so well we can recall great successes we have already achieved everything which we it already good uh so just to remind ourselves of of these qualities back again because especially and when we are in a down face we tend to forget it

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 6:31

what do you find the most rewarding thing about your work and you talk about think about what you re doing what's the most ruling part of your work

[andrea_lukac]: 6:38

so it's seeing faces which are released and happy and clarity so that they have they are motivated to follow through

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 6:55

that's great so if you work with clients and idea of trying to find the place of awareness and so their happiness what about this

[andrea_lukac]: 7:05

oh

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 7:05

gives you passion what do you shut about this whole work did you do

[andrea_lukac]: 7:10

so

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 7:11

yeah

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i love feeling this happiness which arises then and joy of life

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 7:21

so yeah you mention your story but you discover the into the work where i a sort of the people were unhappy

[andrea_lukac]: 7:31

yes

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 7:31

and just kind of go into the bird lives kind of like you know fog probably so how do you how do people begin to evertibbasis change their attitude to the more positive approach to life

[andrea_lukac]: 7:46

yes first of all becoming clear of our own thinking of our feelings

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love

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of our behavior and when we become clear or we

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 7:57

yeah

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can change it for the better

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 7:59

m it's great so you bag for doing this by the way

[andrea_lukac]: 8:06

so by asking a lot of questions and really being like the best observer were observing a reward we are speaking every

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ah

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feeling we can feel ah

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ah

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how we are behaving

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ah

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what is stopping us

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oh

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from a certain direction

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yeah

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or

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it

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what is pushing us

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 8:29

oh

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so to to also acknowledge our drives within

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 8:36

m oh that's great i like that so if you think about your work that ere doing you now what has been your proudest moment in your career so far m

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proud as

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oh

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so i'm proud of it that

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ah

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i may contribute to crucial part of people listening to their inner world because

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oh

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i believe that the inner world

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we

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creates the outer world and so they can live and more fully satisfied life

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 9:13

it's great i love that because it is interesting because we especially when a lot of people are coming out of this with healthy you know situation for the last two years so how do we begin like you said look at our inner life and living in joy the living god has given to us which is kind of a place for us to live

[andrea_lukac]: 9:35

yes we humans are social beings and that will be with our social networks connecting

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ah

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with people who

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oh

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can understand

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yeah

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and us and are supporting us and to do so we have

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oh

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to take an inventory force to know

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oh

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which people are here for me when i need them and which are not reachable for me when i

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 10:01

yeah

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need them because if i know this question first i do not need to contact the ants which

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a

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will not be here for me but i will directly contact the ones which are away

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 10:12

oh

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level for me for sure

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 10:15

it's care you mentioned something think as interest that we are social beings and i now said this last two ye s social connection was really hided by covid so for people who who kind of live their life as a social movies which i think really isn't social it's just a way to kind of hide behind device and not be social how do you how do you encourage people to engaged in a social environment around them

[andrea_lukac]: 10:45

yes by being here for people by

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i

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asking each other how we can assist and help each other

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 10:53

right have you noticed that that you've got real clients after covidlbefore covid because of the social disconnect

[andrea_lukac]: 11:02

so i'm not sure if it was by social disconnect or by improvement but i noticed that after a lot of people suffer with

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 11:15

oh

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mental illnesses or depressions

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 11:19

yes

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burn out

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 11:23

i noticed that too i saw i've seen his thoughts where the suicide hot lions have just been overworked by people who are dealing with so much mental illness coming out of this whole coved thing distress so it's really important one you do the work that you do especially in this time

[andrea_lukac]: 11:41

on the one side it

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oh

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is to offer and bring awareness

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we

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to it and on the other side there is also the part where person should not be shy i to ask for help when they need it

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 11:57

right exactly

[andrea_lukac]: 11:58

because no one is perfect and the s there are people who went through it and there are people out there who can help us but we have to go out and ask for help first

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 12:11

and asking for it always easily that we kind of like to fix things ourselves up to times ten we

[andrea_lukac]: 12:17

yeah yes but how much will the life be easier if we could speak it out

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 12:24

exactly so are you working at projects for now you're excited about the until the audience

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um about

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oh

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what i am excited

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any project you're working i maybe you're developing that you want to share with us right now

[andrea_lukac]: 12:40

so

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 12:40

oh

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i'm excited because i want to bring a book out and i want to make master classes in the near future so i'm excited about

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 12:53

so tell us more about what the book is going to be about

[andrea_lukac]: 12:56

so about mental health

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 12:58

okay and you're kind of giving some you got your chap your mind that you working on hat you want you want to for the audience be looking for the book down the road

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so to

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oh

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how to deal

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how

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with all this mind freak how to resolve all limiting beliefs which are not longer serving us and

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oh

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how to set the goal into

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i

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the focus on to the desired outcome

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 13:27

and you master classes will cover part of your book the

[andrea_lukac]: 13:32

um m maybe but it will be

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oh

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more deeper

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 13:37

oh

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and we will work on it as the group needs it

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 13:44

as great so we need to pick book coming up tie a book um

[andrea_lukac]: 13:52

um i think in some months

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 13:56

okay it's really neat so i'd like to ask my gustus question as you think about your impact on the world what do you want to wogac

[andrea_lukac]: 14:07

eh

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to be

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so i want people to

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oh

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own their lives back again as we owe them when we were little children and

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oh

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to make our own decisions not based upon some past experiences or inner triggers but upon our values

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 14:31

well that's really

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and

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i like that anything i'm having to ask you if i should

[andrea_lukac]: 14:38

oh

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cover

[andrea_lukac]: 14:40

yes not necessarily because if we are aware of how we are thinking feeling and behaving we are at the right place

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 14:56

yeah

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where we can change it for the better

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 14:59

i like that we are the

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oh

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idea that we have

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come

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inside of us the desire to

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oh

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be helpful readership is so

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oh

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important so vital for people to get

[andrea_lukac]: 15:09

oh

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 15:09

stan especially in these times so where can my listens find

[andrea_lukac]: 15:14

yeah

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 15:14

your website and

[andrea_lukac]: 15:15

yeah

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 15:15

find more about you on social media ah

[andrea_lukac]: 15:18

uh so at the moment it's in process still

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 15:22

at

[andrea_lukac]: 15:22

but if anyone wants to reach out they can do it wi ich will be andrea locate dot coaching at mail dot com

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 15:32

well andrew thank you so much for what you're doing thank you for being

[andrea_lukac]: 15:34

ah

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on the shore

[andrea_lukac]: 15:35

yeah

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 15:35

i really appreciate this was a great conversation the idea of helping to better relate and communicate is just so vito and our culture so thank you for what you do and blessings on the work that you do

[andrea_lukac]: 15:49

yes

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 15:49

oh

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you're all come

[keith_haney__the_man__the_myth__the_legend]: 15:57

well that was great thank you adrea